August 23, 2016

Commandments

Dating Tip #1 SMILE!

The Commandments

Act like a lady

This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or emailing him excessively, it will make you look desperate and crazy.

Act like a gentleman

This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Women admire and respect a man who still believes in chivalry. This includes being attentive and making her feel safe and letting her know that you respect her. Do not make any sex jokes to her too soon, while you are just getting to know each other. Offer to get her an Uber to and from the date, specially if there will be drinks involved. Always be respectful to our ladies. 

Do not drink too much on the first date

Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could impair your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember — two drinks maximum!

Honor thy dating commandments

(Women)When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc. However, If you suggest less than dinner, that sends the clear message that you are auditioning him and you don’t have time to share an entire meal with him. If you are marriage minded, know that this will turn off monogamous men. Please do not make other plans immediately following the date. He will notice if you are constantly looking at your phone, and he will be unimpressed. It’s important to remember that even if your date is not your dream guy, you are gathering information and experience, called Dating Data, that you will use on future dates with someone more to your liking.

(Men) When you meet an introduction through us, it is very important that you stick to inviting the candidate to dinner, offer to get her an Uber or let her know that you will be reimbursing her (if there will be drinks involved)

Don't talk about wanting any/more kids before you are in an intimate committed relationship

One of the biggest mistakes people make is that within the first few dates is that they start talking about wanting to have kids way too soon, even before they are intimate. And YES there really is such thing as too soon!

As a man you may not ask if she wants any/more kids unless you guys are in a monogamous relationship or you have been in an intimate relationship, and you are considering making her the mother of your children. When you are asking her if she wants kids, what most women are hearing is...I might want to have kids with you. (So now she is under the impression that you would want her to be the mother of your kids. When you are simply asking if she would want to have kids one day...You just planted a seed) The truth is that around 95% of women who don't have them want to have them one day, and in some cases even if she doesn't want them now, she can always change her mind. Because if she answers honestly it will put too much pressure on such a brand new relationship. Get to know her first. And just to be clear, we are not saying to lie to her if you are 100% sure that you don't want kids at all or with her, eventually do let her know that but not something that needs to be brought up too soon, we do believe in being honest 100% we are simply saying that this should be brought up once you have a steady relationship.

As a woman don't bring it up too soon, it makes you look desperate even if you are not. Get to know him first. Even when a man wants kids, he will NOT give just anyone kids, (which we are sure you would not either, otherwise you would have have one/them by now) if you come off pushy he will automatically shut down and will be completely turned off. If you are just looking to have children this service is not for you, our clients have way too much to lose to be having babies with just anyone. 

Don’t be a GOLD DIGGER or a SUGAR DADDY

(Women) If you are struggling financially do not tell him about it or hint that you are in a financial bind, it will just turn him off completely! Never ask or hint for anything of monetary value. DO NOT EVER bring up the subject (Get a second job if needed and come back to us when you are back on your feet) We cater to eligible bachelors and bachelorettes that have their act together. Our clients don't come to us to get Gold Diggers, they could get Gold Diggers on their own, our clients have no problem by supporting their girlfriend/fiancé or wife but NOT someone who they just met and are getting to know. But with that being said this does NOT mean that he owes to support you,  just because you are in a relationship, that is solely up for him to decide that, not for you or for us to decide for him, its his money that he has worked very hard for and it is only up to him.

(Men) We advice you to stay away from the subject of who you have helped in the past, or what you bought someone in the past, we also advice not to speak of the subject with someone that you are just getting to know, unless you are in a committed relationship with them. Once you are in a committed relationship, it is solely up to you to support someone or take them shopping or not. 

This service is catered to people who are looking for committed relationships only. We expect everyone to act respectful to one another and to be respectful to the service, If you are just looking to have a Sugar Daddy or a Sugar Baby this service is not for you, and you may not treat any of our members as either one of those.

Be engaging & always SMILE

Respond to his questions with positive energy and enthusiasm, and stay on neutral subjects like the arts and current events in the beginning. Witty banter is very important. Ask interesting questions, be a good listener as well as an active participant, and get to know him. Eye contact is important, too – let him look into those baby blues, big browns or gorgeous greens and make sure you look into his. Don’t forget to SMILE 

Let the man take the lead and avoid bringing personal baggage to the table

Let the man lead by suggesting a restaurant and making plans for the first date, but let him know in a gracious manner, if you would rather go to another establishment or do something else.

In the beginning, it is best not to bring up any of your deep personal issues; he’s not your therapist (and you’re not his). This often happens with when excessive alcohol and/or chemistry are present. Deep, personal history is simply too much intimate information for him to process in the beginning. If you want to be in a healthy, loving, committed relationship it is important to let the man lead the conversation in the beginning and ask the questions. The conversation should become a ping-pong match, with the gentleman serving and you responding with information about yourself when he asks.

Not, under any circumstances, speak of any other romantic relationships

Men & Women don’t want to hear about their competition just as you don’t want to hear about yours. Focus on the date at hand.  Men/women want to date someone who is trust worthy, in whom they can confide in. If a gentleman/lady questions you about other relationships on a first date just reply with, “That’s unimportant. What is important is that I’m here with you now.” (don’t forget to SMILE) It’s helpful if you don’t have your ex’s name tattooed on your arm. 

Return calls promptly

It’s important to return a gentleman’s telephone call within 24 hours on weekdays, or within 72 hours on weekends or holidays, if you really can’t get away for just a couple minutes, shoot a text and let them know when is a good time to talk. Busy men become perturbed if they don’t hear back from you within that time frame. They will lose interest in you and move on to the next girl if you do not return their calls in a timely fashion. (Remember the beginning of a relationship is when we set the tone, later they will think it’s ok to do it to you.)

(If Interested) Express some Interest

Don’t play hard to get if you like him/her. A man/woman likes genuine compliments just as much as you do (and maybe even more) so don’t be afraid to tell him he’s handsome (or tell her how beautiful she is), interesting or funny. Offering to cook a meal for him is an exceptional, appreciative gesture. If you are not a great cook, or order from your favorite take out. But do not offer to outright pay for something: once a woman touches money/credit card in front of a male she becomes masculine energy, which is undesirable. Once you are in a committed relationship, and its his birthday paying for small thoughtful things in his presence is acceptable.

Do not become intimate on the first date

If you’re interested in him/her, a hug and kiss must suffice. We suggest taking it slow and getting to know your perspective mate really well and until you are both monogamous. NEVER assume that you are monogamous, unless he asks you to be monogamous, and exclusive with you.

Do not talk about ANY other dating service

If you are a part of any other dating service or dating app, do not bring that up and if you are asked diffuse the conversation and tell him/her that you cannot talk about that since its part of our terms of service and you are not to speak or ask about other services.

Don't ask for pictures before you meet

In order to remain in our club you may not ask for pictures or send any pictures for privacy reasons, just know that not all of our clients get them. We have different packages for everyone, if somebody gets pushy or asks for them you must let us know ASAP. (Through email) That is against Club rules and we will make sure that our Clients and Candidates follow them.

Find out what your top 2 love languages are

We require everyone in the service to find out what their top two love languages are, with our experience it is important not only to know what our top two are but to also share them with our significant other, it is important for you two to know what each others Love Languages are, to be able to fulfill one another.

5 Love Languages Test

Do not drink and drive

Do NOT drink and drive, if you have been drinking you should take an Uber back home (if you are a male we advise that you get your date an Uber home and take one yourself) if she refuses that is her choice to make, but she is solely responsible for anything that happens.

If anyone chooses to drink and drive, that person is solely responsible for anything that happens to them or anyone else.

You may not ask anyone or talk about previous matches

Do NOT talk to your date about any previous matches,  this also includes you NOT asking your date about any previous matches through our service or any other service. If you guys run out of things to talk about, talk about upcoming trips that you may like to take or have in mind, or this would be a great time to talk about your top 2 Love Languages.If someone starts telling you or asking about it let us know ASAP! We take this very seriously and this is to stay completely confidential.

Breaking our Commandments/being disrespectful or canceling on someone last minute, may get your membership revoked and there will be no refunds.

 Breaking the club commandments is a HUGE form disrespect not only the other person but to the service as well. Everybody's time is valuable regardless of what they do for a living or how much they make, we consider last minute cancelation, or a no-show disrespectful to the other person and to the service and may get your membership revoked immediately.

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