Keep the drinks to a minimum and don’t over share, on the first couple dates.
Sometimes we think College-educated, interesting, funny and beautiful; the whole package, right? Possibly, except, those qualities alone may not be sufficient when it comes to “wowing” a guy during date number one; the most crucial period of all. Below is a list of dating mistakes many women make:
Out of the thousands of men that we have interviewed, they have all asked for one thing in common, (take in mind we all have different preferences) and that is for a woman to be feminine, that being said we are not saying for a woman not to be career oriented or be intelligent and go back to the 50’s where the woman is in the kitchen, we are saying that you can still have the education, career, business, and still be feminine around your man, as matchmakers we have noticed that it is harder for Independent women to be in a relationship these days, she then feels that she is intimidating to men because she is so Independent, and NO you can still be Independent and also be Feminine, we all deserve to have someone who loves and adores us and also has our back, so it is important to allow your feminine side to come out when you are with your guy and let him know that things that you appreciate about him, from the very beginning let him open that door, and act like a gentleman, and let him know that you want someone who makes you feel provided and protected (if its what you want) to be clear by saying provided for it can be a man who provides you to feel special and supported, there are many things men can provide for us, we are women and its ok to want and need certain things from our partner. We all need someone who has our back and makes us feel safe. As women we are the ones that a bit more complicated, as we can want something really bad one minute and later guess what we changed our minds, it’s all good however it is important to express ourselves and be direct.
Sometimes want instant gratification, so we will download a dating app, so we tend to go on too many unproductive dates, and lower our standards therefore meeting losers, men with no job that have zero problem with using women, in whatever way that they can or a guy who still live at home, or who have a bunch of roommates who they do everything with (we have met a few of those ourselves before, nothing wrong if its temporary but if you have your act together so should he, and we do NOT agree that a woman should be used financially in any way). If you are in a cycle where quantity has surpassed quality in the men you are meeting, it may be time to take a dating rain check, clear your negative energy and start over with dating only good guys, even up your age range a bit (older = more mature) remember women tend to be more mature than men (the same age) so if you want something with real potential date someone older than you that usually would and give that a try. Although you may end up with less dates, date men who you admire and respect, and respect you for who you are, it sure beats drowning your own quality and energy wasting time with losers who are not actually looking for relationship or are not emotionally available who are just looking to waste your time.
When he asks you out on a dinner date, let him know the two types of foods that you prefer, (if you are a vegan let him know ahead of time so he doesn’t pick a restaurant with no vegan choices. Or if he asks you flat out where would you like to go, give him a few options and let him pick the place our of those, sometimes women are afraid to speak up, and suggest which places or if they would rather go elsewhere, because they don’t want to come off dramatic or be that girl but the truth is that men (gentlemen) hold themselves accountable and want to make sure you have a good time. Men prefer a woman who is direct and if he doesn’t and is choosing to not be a gentleman, run now since you deserve a man who is respectful to you and women and who is going to court you and show you respect now, if he cant seem to do that in the beginning, he never will this is the honeymoon stage.
Act like a lady
This means being polite and following common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or texting him excessively, it will make you look desperate and crazy.
Do not drink too much on the first date
Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could impair your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember — two drinks maximum!
Don’t talk about wanting any/more kids on the first two dates
One of the biggest mistakes people make is that within the first few dates, is that they start talking about wanting to have kids way too soon, even before they are intimate. And YES there really is such thing as TOO SOON!
As a woman don’t bring it up too soon, it makes you look desperate even if you are not (get to know him first.) Even when a man wants kids, he will NOT have them with just anyone, (which we are sure you would not either, otherwise you would have have many by now) if you come off pushy he will automatically shut down, and will become completely turned off.
Avoid bringing up personal baggage right away
In the beginning, it is best not to bring up any of your deep personal issues; he’s not your therapist (and you’re not his). This often happens with when excessive alcohol and/or lots chemistry. Deep, personal history is simply too much intimate/personal information, for him to process in the very beginning (it is very human to judge when you don’t know someone well enough). If you want to be in a healthy, loving, committed relationship it is important to let the man lead the conversation in the beginning and ask the questions about himself without being too intrusive. The conversation should become a ping-pong match. And ladies don’t ask something too personal and deep specially if you are going to hold it against them after, get to know them better as a person first.
Finally, outsource. The most entrepreneurial and business-wise people do it in nearly every aspect of their professional lives, so why not do so in terms of your personal life? Hire a matchmaking agency to filter out the weeds for you and find you a guy worth your sparse free time. Remember: you get what you pay for. Forty bucks a month online will get you just that – cheap men who aren’t very serious about putting their investment into a relationship, so they have the time to sit at home on their laptops and waste yours. A legitimate dating agency attracts only serious-minded and successful individuals who are smart enough (and have enough dough) to put their most personal desires into the hands of specialists. You hire people to clean your home, run your errands or watch your dog, so humble up and admit it’s tough finding Mr. Right – let a professional do it for you!
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